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“I don’t ‘support’ him, I just want to watch the trainwreck, you killjoy.” (Paraphrased) March 29, 2011

Posted by thesporkgirl in Domestic Abuse, Substance Abuse, Why Unfollow Charlie?.
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Rebuttal #1 was to the argument that “He’s not hurting anyone but himself.” to which I answer, “Yes, he has, and is still,” in this blog post: http://wp.me/p1qbZi-23 The second most common contrary reaction I hear is along the lines of “Let’s make some popcorn and watch this trainwreck!!” Although to ME the history of violence aspect of this is of supreme importance, maybe for you it’s not, and I get that. So let’s set aside all the issues of domestic violence entirely, let’s imagine this is something less dangerous, more self-contained, as if he were only going to hurt himself.

My reaction to that could simply be summed up, “Why?” Look, I get it, there is schadenfreude. That is a thing. But please consider a little empathy. If your sibling, or best friend, were in the throes of either untreated bipolar disorder or severe drug addiction, whichever the case may be (or both, or something else entirely), would you really want people salivating, staring, waiting for them to display another episode, for their own entertainment? (more…)

“He’s not hurting anyone, get a life, harpy!” (Paraphrased) March 25, 2011

Posted by thesporkgirl in Domestic Abuse, Substance Abuse, Why Unfollow Charlie?.
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I thought I’d take a moment here to address some of the more common rebuttals I read/hear when talking about UnfollowCharlie. I want you guys to know, I don’t begrudge you your entertainment.

If a person really is fully aware of what is going on here now with Charlie Sheen, and what has happened in his recent and more distant past, and still want to watch the train wreck, or mock him or genuinely enjoy him, then by all means, that is your right. “Unfollow Charlie” is a suggestion, not a command.

Rebuttal #1: “He’s not hurting anyone, get a life, harpy!” (paraphrased). Right now? Today? I mean it’s early in the day, and he has hurt many people in his life, I’d say the odds of him hurting someone are significantly proportionally higher than the general population’s. This is one I hear from people who honestly forgot or even honestly never heard of Charlie Sheen’s history of violence. To recap:

1990: Shoots Kelly Preston accidentally in the arm. (Years later, with no corroboration and seemingly out of thin air, he claims in a radio interview that the gun shot her when she picked up his dirty pants doing laundry, the gun having been in the pocket. Please spare me, that is not how guns work. And if that is what happened, I do not believe Kelly Preston ever would have allowed “Charlie Sheen accidentally shoots fiancé Kelly Preston” to go uncorrected.)  EDIT:  May 7, 2011 – we’ve now seen the links to video where Kelly confirmed that this is what happened after several years of silence on the issue.  We are glad the shooting was not deliberate  – Syd (more…)

Substance Abuse and Domestic Violence March 14, 2011

Posted by Syd in Domestic Abuse, Substance Abuse.
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As Ruth’s story below illustrates, domestic violence can often occur in relationships where there is existing substance abuse.  

This does not mean that violence in the relationship is caused by the substance abuse, or that all drug or alcohol abusers are violent.  One does not cause the other.  However, if the predisposition to violence already exists, the drug or alcohol use often makes it easier to act on those impulses because it is easy to blame the lack of impulse control on the substance.

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Survivors of Domestic Abuse – Personal Stories March 14, 2011

Posted by Syd in Domestic Abuse, Personal Stories, Substance Abuse, Teenage Relationships.
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From time to time here on the blog, we’ll be posting the personal stories of domestic violence survivors. These stories are no doubt difficult to share, and they are equally difficult to read, but it’s important that they are read.  

We thank everyone who has been brave enough to submit stories so far and welcome further submissions.

From Ruth:

“I was pretty stupid when I was 17. I dated a guy that was an alcoholic and drug addict. He was a friend of my sisters and I knew when I started spending time with him that he drunk a lot, but I didn’t know what kind of guy he was when he had too much to drink. (more…)